Welcome. Whatever has brought you to the point of choosing to seek out couples therapy, I recognise that it can take a long while of struggling to work things out between you/together/alone before both arriving at readiness to invite a therapist into the usually more private world of your relationship.
The initial session together allows you to get more of a sense of me and how I work, and me some idea of the issues, challenges and shared and personal histories you are coming with. Thereafter, I usually recommend weekly sessions, at least initially, based on what couples have reported has been most effective for them.
Once our relationship and the work is more established and has gathered the desired effective momentum, less frequent sessions may feel more appropriate. (I am however open to discussion and appreciate that we all have different needs, so I will always listen and do my best to accommodate, where I believe it's in integrity and service of your relationship).
I will support you to look more deeply into the dynamics between you, at what you are each wanting, where things may have changed or deteriorated, the repeating difficult patterns that may keep causing conflict/rupture, and how to move towards healthier and more enjoyable and fulfilling ways of relating
I may at times offer specific practices/exercises to support you in what you're wanting to learn, change or cultivate in the relationship.
Some common themes I work with:
My couples work is grounded in 15 years of practice as a somatic psychotherapist and is strongly informed by systemic models of therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing (SE) as well as specialist couples training since 2019 (Juliet Grayson, David Slattery and Terry Real - RLT1 (Relational Life Therapy - Level 1).
In the course of our work together, if it becomes clear that individual trauma work is needed, this may be possible or even most beneficial with your partner present, but sometimes it can be indicated that both of you come for one or more individual sessions.
I welcome you however you identify; whatever your lifestyle, sexual orientation, gender identity, ethnicity, cultural or social background.
I am in ongoing supervision and undertake continuing professional development.
COST
Initial Session - 1 hour - £90
Subsequent sessions - 1 hour - £90
1 1/4 hours - £110
The initial session together allows you to get more of a sense of me and how I work, and me some idea of the issues, challenges and shared and personal histories you are coming with. Thereafter, I usually recommend weekly sessions, at least initially, based on what couples have reported has been most effective for them.
Once our relationship and the work is more established and has gathered the desired effective momentum, less frequent sessions may feel more appropriate. (I am however open to discussion and appreciate that we all have different needs, so I will always listen and do my best to accommodate, where I believe it's in integrity and service of your relationship).
I will support you to look more deeply into the dynamics between you, at what you are each wanting, where things may have changed or deteriorated, the repeating difficult patterns that may keep causing conflict/rupture, and how to move towards healthier and more enjoyable and fulfilling ways of relating
I may at times offer specific practices/exercises to support you in what you're wanting to learn, change or cultivate in the relationship.
Some common themes I work with:
- Repair after conflict
- Establishing and maintaining healthy boundaries
- Staying in connection with yourself and your partner/s in the face of strong difference
- Understanding and working with neurodiversity in partnership and family
- Recognising and taking responsibility for feelings and needs (and how to help each other with this).
- Family dynamics/parenting challenges
- Intensity vs intimacy
- Adjusting to transition/change - eg the birth of a child, children leaving home, job-loss/change, perimenopause/menopause, ill-health, bereavement
- Personal trauma
- Addiction as a response to relational trauma and the impacts of addiction on relationship
- Interaction between neurodiversity and addiction
My couples work is grounded in 15 years of practice as a somatic psychotherapist and is strongly informed by systemic models of therapy, Internal Family Systems (IFS), Somatic Experiencing (SE) as well as specialist couples training since 2019 (Juliet Grayson, David Slattery and Terry Real - RLT1 (Relational Life Therapy - Level 1).
In the course of our work together, if it becomes clear that individual trauma work is needed, this may be possible or even most beneficial with your partner present, but sometimes it can be indicated that both of you come for one or more individual sessions.
I welcome you however you identify; whatever your lifestyle, sexual orientation, gender identity, ethnicity, cultural or social background.
I am in ongoing supervision and undertake continuing professional development.
COST
Initial Session - 1 hour - £90
Subsequent sessions - 1 hour - £90
1 1/4 hours - £110
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